Wednesday, June 9, 2010

In which Shana talks WAY too damned much

A few weeks ago I read this article, and as a strong willed feminist, I took issue and kind of raged on it for a while.

And don't get me wrong, I still disagree with the major points the writer made, but it did get me to think a bit.

I started to analyze how I interact with PEOPLE (because I'm clearly not dating) and whether or not I could be acting/reacting in a manner that could be perceived as off putting. I already know that I'm shy to start out, but once you get me going, I talk WAY too much.

I'm a story teller, and I have a lot of stories to tell, but does that mean I SHOULD tell my stories the way I do? I mean, does anyone really care? Does it just make me seem like a vapid know it all who wants to be the center of attention?

I'll give you a few different examples.

My reaction is to giggle and think about the story from my wedding day when my fake uncle gave the hubs a bowl of cherries because that was the only cherry he was getting on our wedding night. (I was hugely pregnant)

The other night, a friend commented that they'd given their cat a new collar.
My reaction was to smile and think back to the cat I once had that used to eat his collars off his neck. To this day I'm still not sure how he managed it.

I gave these examples because I managed to police my thoughts and keep my fool mouth shut, because clearly what I thought to say wasn't really related in either case.

There are other times when I try to be inspirational or indicate that people aren't alone in the situations and feelings. I'll relate stories in the hopes that it helps, but I begin to think it doesn't. Perhaps a GOOD friend keeps her mouth shut and just makes sure that her friends know that she's there, but is silent.

Maybe I need to recognize that most people don't want to hear my stories.

1 comment:

eva said...

It gets boring to talk to people who never has anything of their own to say. It's nice at first because they don't interrupt(ha ha), but then after a while it start to feel like you're talking to yourself.. so tell your stories! It's not like what other people have to say is more important than what you have to say either. Most of what people say is nonsense, but it's important to say it anyway as a way to keep up social bonds. I don't know if you've played the Sims, but think about how the Sims socialise..

Ohmygod-- I just read that article, I can't believe someone actually wrote that and have people who agree with them, it's so wrong on so many levels! And who would even want male friends or boyfriends who they needed to dumb it down for???????? Agh!